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Coping With Grief

I just want to start off by saying that I will not be providing step-by-step instructions on how to cope with grief. I hope this page can help you cope with the grief that accompanies the lost of a love one. However, this website, and any website out there, is not going to cease your grief.

Okay, now I should probably explain what I mean about the inevitable, long-lasting grief before I scare the rest of you away. No matter what you go through in life, some form of grief will accompany your events. Grief does not just occur when you lose a loved one (however, this website will focus mainly with death-related grief). It has been occurring throughout your whole life, in every step of the journey that you take. Your may only just now be realizing it because your grief has become more prominent and difficult to handle.

The common question that is usually inquired is, "When will my grief end?" Unfortunately it will not end. As long as you still love the person, you will always feel some sort of grief about them. It's not just going to end after a designated time frame. However, grief is not necessarily a negative thing that should be despised or concealed. When you think about your loved one, think about the happy times that you had. Every laugh, every giggle, and every soft smile that you exchanged. If you choose, you can also remember some of the sad times as well. You fell in love with every single part of that person: every moment you shared, every good memory, and every bad memory. Your relationship with that person was not a perfect, happy, one-way street. But that's what made the relationship perfect, in its own unique way. All of those memories are what made you both the amazing people that you are, together.

Okay, I understand your problem is presumably the overwhelming sadness that is associated with the grief. There is not a specific way "to get rid of it." I know that's not what you want to read, and I'm truly sorry. You are going to be sad; you are going to be angry. It's understandable; they were an important part of your life, and now they are just gone. Your heart did not get the warning. The only thing I can help you with is making the sadness a little smaller, and the happiness a little bigger.

Here are some things that could help you cope with your grief:

-Talk to the people around you and share stories about that person.

-Look through old pictures and remember the memories you had together.

-Think about them (I know to some, this might seem strange, but please don't try to ignore their existence; it's not going to solve anything).

-Write notes about/to them.

-Do things that they loved to do (For example, if they loved going to a certain restaurant, go there too).

-SO MUCH MORE!

♡♡♡An example of something that I do to remember my dad (go look at the "About Me" to learn more) is I watch my dad's bodybuilding shows that are on tape. My dad loved bodybuilding and it was a huge part of his life; therefore it is also a huge part of my life. A bonus is to make fun of all of the weird faces that he made while posing.♡♡♡

Like I have wrote so many times, this is not a guide to stop your grief immediately. There are so many other things that are not listed above that you could also do. Just do what makes you feel comfortable. Some of these things may take more time and courage to accomplish. That's okay. This grieving process is unique to YOU, and only you. However, what you should NOT do is try to "stay strong" and ignore your feelings. Please don't do that. Your strongest self will occur when you are able successfully identify and express your emotions. Please do not try to suppress them for yourself or society, it's just going to hurt you in the process, and no one wants that.

Finally, I know it's easy for me to say, but it really does get better. I don't know when it will get better, but I do know it will someday. In the meantime, know that you are loved and are one of the strongest people out there.


I love you! ♡